First things first: Good Communication

Many of the couples I work with discover early on in therapy that there is a missing ingredient in their communication that if corrected can make a world of difference. It is a simple problem that is often at the core of much more complicated relationship difficulties. The ingredient I see most often missing with couples who are struggling is effective listening. Most couples who have been together for awhile, listen while already formulating a response to their partner. Most of us find that doing both of these things well at the same time is close to impossible. There are relatively simple tools that couples can learn to use that help to solve this problem and so they are often the subject of early sessions. I will talk more about the things that couples can do differently that will help with their relationship in upcoming blogs.